Unbelievable!-Part One

By: Patience Joy Ayebare.

Juls was my first boyfriend and I enjoyed having him as my first until I started complaining and whining about him not being perfect enough for me.

Now there’s something about Christian girls, atleast most that I’ve seen. We want to date and get married but we make it so complicated for the good men that come our way. We expect these brothers from church to be like Jesus himself. Surprisingly, we make it so easy for the nonbelievers. We let them into our lives and allow them to do whatsoever they please because we often think we can change them over time.

And so that is exactly what happened to me. I loved Juls and he loved me too. He honestly tried but I wanted more. I wanted him to go with me for all my church services, fellowships and bible classes. I needed him to read the word more than I did, which was unrealistic because I read the bible nearly every second of my life. How was he supposed to outdo that?

I wanted our conversations to be about the word. Yes, absorbing scripture and just gossiping about God. Now I’m not trying to say Juls was not doing any of those things. He did things in his own way and had a great relationship with God. It is only now that I realize I was only comparing him to the men of God I saw out there.

“Get married to someone who knows God more than you do”. That quote sounds true if said in a deep-enough voice, but it is not true because all the bible tells us is, ‘yoke with believers’. How we started quantifying who is believing more and who is believing less is what I do not understand.

After us getting into many disagreements with me asking Juls to change; and him standing his ground not to; I decided we call it quits. This way, I could go find me a man that would speak in tongues with me.

My first encounter was with a doctor.

By: Patience Joy Ayebare.

End Of Part One.

Thank you for reading. Part two will be out shortly.

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  1. Pasinde

    May 31, 2022 at 11:15 pm

    Oh wow, can’t wait for part 2 to give a conclusive comment.

  2. Echoes Over Coffee

    June 1, 2022 at 7:40 am

    What mesmerizes me are the things Joy expected from Juls. Most of us just want fancy dates, cute presents, a guy’s jumper, roses….blah blah blah…..I found your list of expectations quite amusing.

  3. Ayebare Patience Joy

    June 1, 2022 at 10:58 am

    Haha my top love language is quality time and since I spend most of it reading stuff, I like it when someone comes into my world and spends time with me there.

    1. Echoes Over Coffee

      June 1, 2022 at 11:14 am

      I salute you Miss.

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