Marriage?
You know what they say, that marriage exposes you? Well, I didn’t have to first get married for that to happen. This year, I got the honor of mentoring 18 girls alongside a white couple. Believe me, unless you’re a politician, you can’t get more exposed and criticized than that. Imagine 18 teenage girls placing you under a microscope, and having an opinion on everything that concerns you. -Worse than marriage, right? But don’t get me wrong; I’m not complaining. Because just like marriage, my line of work comes with lots of good things too.
For those that I have had the opportunity of interacting with, I keep telling them that lately I feel as though I were married, with married people’s problems. The demands are definitely high: “You have to communicate”…. “Teamwork is key”… “You have to invest in relationships”… “You always have to be emotionally and mentally available”… And so on and so forth. I could go on, until the cows come home.
If you don’t mind me asking, which single person has to concern themselves with any of the above? So now you get what I mean about feeling married?
Last year, I was tripping over some guy. Lucky for me, the guy was nice enough to text and have conversations with me. One day while we were texting, he asked me a random question out of the blue; “Are you a good woman for a man?” He wanted me to respond by rating myself on a scale of 1-10.
My first instinct was to laugh and joke about the whole thing, by telling him that I was actually a 10/10.
“It depends on who is asking,” I replied evasively.
He replied by writing his name, and said that he was asking. I paused hesitantly, before deciding to tell him the truth. I somehow felt embarrassed as I texted him that I actually gave myself a 5/10; then went on to state my reasons why.
Remember I told you that he was nice? Yes, his reaction was the sweetest ever. He said that he would give me an 8/10 considering that I was so self-aware. (So kind and generous of him! If he ever tries to be President one day, remind me to vote for him).
But that was last year. We are already in August of 2024 and all I can tell you is, if Prince Charming asked me the same question right now, I’m afraid my reply would be that I am a 2/10. That’s 20%!
In all sincerity, looking at how I have been coping with my mentees and work partners, I do believe that I have a lot of bullshit I need to deal with before I became someone’s wife and mother. I don’t feel anywhere close to being ready for marriage.
If you must pray and fast for someone this year, I hope I am that person.
The End.
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16 Comments
Yeah… A version I learned many years ago..,.. Love is blind but marriage is an eye opener…
I enjoyed reading this.
Thank you so much 🙏
“Love is blind but marriage is an eye opener,” is a great quote. It should be put on a T-shirt.
Self awareness is a very good thing.
The thing about marriage though is that marriage is not for perfect people. It’s a place where you have to be as teachable as possible. Its not an easy thing , neither is it an impossible one. We shall always pray for you. But also, marriage is not a commandment so have your peace of mind and allow God’s will to be done in your life.
“Thou shall get married”.
It now is!😅
Socrates once said, “By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you will become a philosopher”.
Philosopher 😍😍😍
Looks like the philosophers will be many. 😅
Marriage is a really beautiful thing when you link up with the right person. It can be a hell of a mess if you land in the hands of the person who just couldn’t wait to get you naked. So if you must, marry. It’s not all Rossy but it’s a really good thing. Just be the best version of yourself and allow God handle the rest. I remember those days in highschool when I would pray for my future partner. I know it’s never late. You never know when your future is.
But why are you so wise Natuhwera?
Hhhhhhhmmmm… I guess I’m getting old.
Don’t say that when you know that we are the same age.
Me am a baby(-or I’d like to think that I am😌)
Darling it’s time for the prayer mountain 🤣🤣
Barbara, have you ever been serious in your life?😄😄
Need water, go to the well not the forest. More camps, church, cell and generally interaction as much as possible. No more isolation.
True that!👍
The comments for me… However, marriage is a great thing but shouldn’t rush into it. It can be a mess when rushed into
Have you ever been married?😅
If not, leave us alone.